Our virtue for the month here at St. Teresa School is forgiveness. When I was younger, I didn't think that forgiveness was that big of a deal. Someone hurts you, they say they're sorry, and you say, "I forgive you." Done. End of story.
Well, it's not always so simple or easy! What happens if the person who hurt us is not sorry? What if they are no longer living, and we don't have a chance to reconcile? What if the pain of the wound is so deep that it seems impossible to heal?
The older we get, if we have not forgiven someone for the way they hurt us, we become a little like the tin man in the Wizard of Oz when he gets caught out in the rain. We become spiritually stiffer, unable to move, almost frozen in our spiritual lives, or in our interactions with that person. Or maybe we choose not to interact with that person at all. We need the oil of forgiveness.
The saint stories that I'm using to illustrate forgiveness include St. Josephine Bakhita, St. Margaret of Castello and St. Patrick. All three of these saints experienced imprisonment, extreme pain over prolonged periods, or captivity in some way. They had many and ample reasons to be hurt, sad and angry about the way others treated them. They all experienced liberation from their chains at some point in their lives. And they all forgave their persecutors, experiencing liberation not only from physical captivity, but also the captivity of unforgiveness. They became free.
What are some helps to forgiveness?
- Frequent confession--when we realize how much we have been forgiven, we more easily forgive those who hurt us
- Prayer at the foot of the Cross--ask the Holy Spirit to show you someone whom you need to forgive; in your hurt and pain, see how Jesus looks with love at you from the Cross; picture the person who hurt you also at the foot of the Cross--notice how He looks at them; how does this change your way of viewing that person?
Sister Mary Agnes, C.K.